Commiting to Personal Excellence: Developing Yourself and Others

Committing To Personal Excellence

  • Ongoing process – never has an ending point
  • Must be willing to give up your excuses
  • Be your best and give your best
  • Structurally can pursue as step level process, taking on incremental steps vs. being daunted by goal

Why Few People Utilize Their Potential

  • Developing and realizing potential has to be a conscious choice, and a choice committing to effort
  • For those circumstances you can’t control, you can control your response
  • It involves not just accepting responsibility but owning who you are
  • Being an effective leader is attained simply by being healthy and integrated and having a thirst for growth
  • Be your best self
    • Achieved by accepting who you are, committing to be your best and behavioral consequences & continuously pushing others to growth and seeking self-growth
    • Many reasons for not utilizing your potential, challenge for leader is helping others overcome those or encouraging them to move on
    • Focus on present choices and behaviors, not the past
    • Change is conscious and can supplant the unconscious if you so choose.
    • Accept the way you are, decide who you want to be and accept responsibility for getting there
    • To change behavior, have to change the way we think
    • Integrate the past: different options, pick one and do it
    • Live in the past, plan for the future
    • Leverage the power of constructive thinking and acting
      • Develop the ideal self-image
      • Review and visualize your ideal self when you first get up and through the course of the day – consider it a stretch break
      • Practice constructive actions until they become habits … and then keep practicing them so they stay habits
      • Have to set realistic goals, overcome both yours and others resistance to your growth, get and stay motivated …
        • Walk the walk, talk the talk
        • Figure out what your strengths are and build on them – then build new ones
          • Allows you to focus on success, not failure
  • If you want to keep you butt in gear, surround yourself with others who already are
  • Do the things you love – they will keep you motivated
  • Find ways to reward yourself that aren’t tied to old habits
  • Get rid of the clutter and activities that demotivate you – simplify your life
  • Focus and get constructive – both yourself and from others
  • Make it a contract
  • Build it in to your day
  • Check-in and self-renew
  • Growth, like anything else, can be overwhelming if you try to take on too much at one time.
    • Don’t encourage yourself to stretch in ways that spread you thinner
    • Reduce, don’t increase your tolerance for stress so that you remove stress from your life
    • Be humble, let others know what’s up, if you make a mistake learn from it and move on, help others change when you can but don’t force it, just accept who the heck you are – the past is the part
    • All up, take responsibility and don’t get hung upon your past – focus on the present and future

The Behavioral Chain Reaction

  • Reinforces that growth is a never ending process – leaders relish that fact
  • It’s about attitude, passion and a desire to be the best you can
  • While character shapes destiny, there are tools to use to shape your character and change your destiny

The Key to Growth and Change: Taking Responsibility for Your Behavior

  • We all experience “Growing pains” as we physically grow up in our childhood – at times the pains of growth to be your best and continually improve can be even more painful but the end is worth it
  • Desire the challenge of change – be passionate about and love it
  • To do so, you must first take responsibility for your behavior – “the buck stops here”
    • Refuse to be the victim of circumstance, instead be the conqueror of your past to create the essence of your future
    • By doing so, you place yourself on a path of choices rather than locked into a life out of your control
      • If you can change your behavior you can change almost anything

Changing Human Behavior

  • The first step in the process is an awareness of a need for change – if you don’t know change is needed, you don’t know to change
  • Once you accept reality, you can commit to a life of learning and growth, you can find your incentive for change and commit to it
  • To change how you act, it takes practice, practice, practice
    • The path for change must be based in reality
    • This leads to eventual change in habits, but once habits are changed you must be ever vigilant and persistent

Developing the Whole Person

  • The whole person is a balance of internal and external components, either of which can throw the other off kilter
    • Without spiritual balance and the prioritization of it (whatever you may believe) you can never find true balance or harmony
      • By my observations, this is a frequently neglected aspect of a leader’s whole self
      • Be careful to define what external balance means to you, not the generic idea that all things must be equal
      • Create a plan of action that focuses on these areas one at a time and be sure to not let that focused approach pull the rest of the aspects out of whack
        • Work with a mentor, be strategic

How to Stay Motivated

  • Never settle
  • Walk the walk, talk the talk but GENUINELY
  • Realize your strengths, build on them and leverage towards new ones
  • Get the hardcore resisters out of your everyday and surround yourself with motivated people
  • Make time to do the things you love
  • Cut out the things you don’t
  • When you get it done, reward it APPROPRIATELY
  • Commit to someone else for a goal you’ve set, make it mutual and then keep each other accountable
  • Build a schedule that allows and keep you motivated
  • Check-in regularly and check-out when you need the headspace

Growth Guidelines

  • It’s all about making small, incremental changes that keep you on track and lead to greater success
    • As you learn and master the small stuff, the bigger things will become small stuff
    • Just as it doesn’t make sense to do the same things over again the same and expect different results, you should focus on changing things that you can and when you fail, figure out why so you can avoid the same failure in the future
    • Humility in all things, braggadocio in none
    • Set up accountability networks, and if when you can’t cut negative people out of your life, just don’t tell them what’s going on – don’t let them make you doubt yourself
    • Eventually, people will see you change and see your growth and want it for themselves – when they do, help, but don’t force it on anyone
    • Take time to reflect and look at how the changes you’ve made have changed you and your life … and get some feedback on whether it’s a good thing, both internal and external
      • Get some mentors who can objectively observe and comment
      • Learn what you can when you fail and then move on
      • Be YOUR best and refuse to be the victim of fate – create your own destiny

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